It has always been our nature as humans to interact with our outside world. Little wonder our numerous gestures have led us to establishing various kinds and levels of interaction; with the least significant things and also things of high importance. We relate with water, plants and animals around us, even, with our non-living properties- our cell phones, television sets, laptops among others- though, they may seem less important to our lives. More interestingly, we relate with our fellow human beings. A lot of talking, playing are done together by us.
Therefore, I suppose I am not mistaken saying interactions form the greatest part of our lives. Why don’t we then give our greatest attention to it, especially, with our interactions with humans? Regrettably, I have worked with some people and I wished never to try it again. It is not impossible we share the same story, anyway. Even if we don’t, can you ever tell the impression you leave with those that work with you? Memorable or disgusting! I have come to realize that impression is not just about some good qualities you have, friend, it’s about your total self. Read on!
The impression you create of yourself is defined by your personality. As Bob Conklin (1965, p.21) said, “People’s reaction to you can be compared to tasting a new recipe. They react to you according to a total impression of your total personality.” People’s idea of you is distinct and blunt- it has been unconsciously developed in their minds on your summarized whole self. It is either they accept you or not (no intermediate). Then, creating an acceptable impression is building an impressive personality.
What then is personality, you would say? Personality is what I call your whole self. It is about everything that makes you up. It is characteristic of your attitudes, your actions and your feelings. How you are represented to the public says well about your personality. An attractive personality is not built by kind words or pleasant smiles; it is rather built from within. Excellent ways of creating memorable impressions are discussed below, practice them.
1. Improve Your Attitude
The probability that you create a good impression of yourself increases significantly when you have the right attitude towards yourself and more importantly towards others. Your personality projects your attitudes. Do you see yourself as someone to reckon with or a never-do-good? Do you also see yourself as friendly, caring, interesting etc? You are molded by your thoughts. Won’t you be impressed being treated with respect, care, love, understanding by someone? You will, definitely! As a result, building an impressive personality has everything to do with the way you see others; because, your reaction to people is based on your attitude towards them. Little can be done to better your physical appearance, but, much rewarding things can be done to change your attitudes.
2. Intensify Your Actions
Indisputably, humans are judged by their actions. No one will know how nice and wonderful you are, if you refuse to act it out. Do you want to leave good impressions about yourself? Act right! Your actions communicate your thoughts to people, which in turn determine if you will be loved or otherwise. Right actions are as necessary as good attitudes. Beware; don’t just act, act with enthusiasm.
3. Create Your Feelings
Feelings always result from actions. An athlete would only feel like running after his regular exercise. That is, if you don’t act attractive, you can never feel attractive. It’s a simple rule! Quite all human beings want to feel happy, successful, influential and accomplished. In fact, almost all humans’ desires in life center on feelings. If however, we can’t act it, we can’t get it.
It would be unfair if I fail to warn you against the irritating effect of pride and moodiness. Always humble yourself and exercise good controls over your moods. Intelligent application of the above tips will surely yield desired results. Therefore, welcome to your world of remarkable influences.
Contributed by guest blogger Kilanko Victor